Waiting to get the phone call that a birthparent has chosen you or that your baby is waiting for you in the hospital can be a journey laced with times of discouragement. The moment that you are “this close” to becoming a parent (or parent again) only to discover that this is not your baby. The holidays and milestones that pass when you find yourself thinking: “I thought my family would look different by now.” The sadness comes in waves.
The good news for God’s children is that He is with us every step of the way!!! He has a plan for our life that is greater than anything we could have imagined.
God’s timing is not the same as our timing
People have said this to me so many times over the past 11 years as we have journeyed in and out of our periods of waiting. Quite frankly, it used to make me cringe. I used to think, “What does that even mean? Is it one of those Christian clichés that people use all the time without really pondering its meaning? And how is it supposed to make me feel any better?”
As I read the Bible, I began to notice that God talks about His timing a lot. It is not simply a cliché!
About a year ago, I was reading through the book of John and was pleasantly surprised at how many times “timing” is referenced during Jesus’ ministry on earth. In John 7, Jesus’ brothers wanted Him to travel to Judea so that His disciples could see the works He was doing. Jesus’ response: “My time has not yet come.” Later in the same chapter, the authorities sought to arrest Him but no one was able to touch Him.
Even in the life of Jesus the Son of God, things happened in GOD’s timing. Praise Him!
For the first time, I found comfort in knowing that our family would grow when God caused it to grow.